Your Family and Jah
Jah and Your Family
The disintegration of the family unit is, doubtless, one of the greatest tragedies of modern times; a spiritual catastrophe so devastating that it is causing concern to almost all the governments of the world. Disinterested and irresponsible parents, sullen and rebellious children, battered wives and babies, adultery, incest, fornication, drug-abuse, alcoholism and a total lack of communication are evils which are commonplace these days in homes throughout the world. Even more distressing is the fact that most of these problems are escalating out of control, despite the valiant efforts being made to contain them.
Perhaps you live in a home where one or more of these problems exist: where genuine love is a fading memory and peace a total stranger: a home which has become a verbal battleground between husband and wife, abbah and ben, em and daughter (bath), brother and sister: a home where ridicule has replaced respect and where physical or mental cruelty is the norm.
If you do, then take courage because all is not lost. For, incredible as this may sound, it is still possible even at a very late stage to reverse such a trend and to turn your home into a sanctuary of true love and peace; a place where every member of the family is welcomed and valued.
How can this seemingly impossible objective be achieved?
The answer is so simple that there is a real danger you may dismiss it with a shrug of unbelief. But don't do that, because this remedy really does work and multiplied millions of believers through the ages have applied it with success. Here is the remedy - a spiritual formula - in a single sentence.
Have Faith in Jah, your Heavenly Abbah and prayerfully put into practice His advice concerning family life.
This basic instruction - so childishly simple though it sounds - really does work.
So we at the Zion Assembly of Jah “respectfully urge all readers” to give it a try: for who is better qualified to advise on family life than the Creator himself; the one who designed the family unit in the first place. To enable the reader to speedily understand the instructions of JAH (the Creator's name) these reasonings have been arranged under the following headings:
THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION
THE HUSBAND / ABBAH
THE WIFE / MOTHER / EM
COMMUNICATIONS IN THE HOME
To obtain the best results from these reasonings, the reader must aim at its personal application. This means that after reading exhortations, and especially when studying the Scriptural passages quoted, you must resist the temptation of evaluating the performance of the other members of your family.
To be sure it is an easy thing to find fault with others, and often there is ample cause for doing so: but criticizing others will never benefit you. And if you make a habit of it then these reasonings will prove of little value to you. Much rather would we see you apply the lesson to yourself, no matter how much more you think it applies to somebody else.
Husbands should, therefore, dwell on the section headed “The Husband/Father/Abbah.”
Wives should pay special attention to the section headed “The Wife/Mother/ Em.”
And children must beware of using these Scriptural guidelines to belittle their parents; an act which itself is a violation of the fifth commandment.
"Honour your father (abbah) and your mother (em)."
Instead, be strict with yourself and forbearing with others. In this way each member of the family will benefit from these reasonings and the remedy will begin to take effect in your life and home.
Here, then, are the scriptural guidelines for a happy and blessed home. Success will come in direct proportion to their application.
The Marriage Institution
is a Holy institution designed by Jah for the happiness of mankind and, more importantly, to reflect His own spiritual relationship with His people.
(Genesis 1:27-28, Genesis 2:18-24, Isaiah 62:4-5, Hosea 2:19-20, Isaiah 54)
Marriage is for life
and can only be dissolved by the death of one of the parties. Jah abhors divorce, (yes we know about “save for the cause of fornication”) and though it is an extremely common practice these days, divorce is nevertheless totally distasteful to JAH
. (Matthew 19:3-9, Romans 7:1-3, Malachi 2:14-15)
In view of these two facts, that marriage is a Holy institution ordained by Jah to last till death, married couples ought never to toy with the idea that if all doesn't go well then they could, with JAH's approval, obtain a divorce and marry new partners. Millions of potentially happy marriages have been wrecked by this insidious delusion and not a week passes when yet another marriage breakdown is reported.
The first step in achieving success in marriage, is to determine that come what may your marriage is not going to fail, but succeed. And not only is it going to succeed, but with Jah's help it will be so happy that in time it will begin to reflect the beautiful relationship that He is to have with His Assembly (The Body/ church). The following scriptural passages make these points clear and show how sacred and enduring the marriage bond really is. Read them each time you are tempted to think otherwise! (Matthew 5:31-32, Matthew 19:3-9, Mark 10:11-12, Jeremiah 23:10)
The Husband / Abbah/ Father
The husband is the Holy appointed head of the home
; the one held most responsible by Jah for the physical and spiritual welfare of the whole family! He is required by the Most High to exercise his authority with the utmost care, taking as his example to be the Messijah Himself. (Proverbs 18:22, 1 Corinthians 14:35, Ephesians 5:23-33, 1 Timothy 5:8)
A husband's allegiance to his wife overrides his allegiance to all his friends and relatives, including his parents and children!
This is because in the sight of Jah a married couple is "one flesh
," one unit, one spiritual entity, not two
A husband should, therefore, love and cherish his wife above all earthly beings, treating her with the gentleness, respect and attention that is the wife's holy right. This means that in their relationship there should be NO place for:
Physical violence and viciousness of any kind
Mental cruelty or oppression
Spite, hatred or ridicule. See the section on Communications for in this area millions of couples are woefully ignorant.
Marital infidelity (adultery). This is by far the most destructive element in a marriage relationship, so much so that Jah devoted one of the ten commandments to it
In awesome tones He commanded: "Thou shalt not commit adultery."
Modern society has glamorised adultery to such an extent that it is no longer looked upon as a sin. But Jah's law cannot be broken with impunity: adulterers and fornicators invariably pay a heavy price for their sins. So do not deceive yourself because you will certainly suffer for it. (Exodus 20:14, Deuteronomy 22:22, Hebrews 13:4, Jeremiah 29:22-23, Proverbs 6:27-32, Galatians 5:19-21)
The aim of every husband should be to love, cherish and honour his wife; finding in her the companion and friend she was designed by Jah to be.
If a man does this, he will be a real blessing to his wife and pave the way to lasting happiness for his entire family. Men let us not lust after the flesh of strange women (pornos, sex filled booty videos etc.) but Jah says we must be RAVISHED, RAVISHED I say, with your wife. We must pray for strength from Jah, we all need to overcome this sinful nature in us (this goes for the ladies too), and on top of it, the fight is fought in this sinful satanic lust loving world. We must fight our nature brethren and sistrens.
The Wisest King says with Jahly Passion……….
Proverbs 5:18-19 - “Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19 - Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times
; and be thou ravished always with her love.
20 - And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger!”
Peter 3:7 - Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 8: Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: 9: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. 10: For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: 11: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
Laziness is strongly condemned in the Scriptures. Therefore, so as far as possible, a man should work for his living and provide for his wife and family. (Proverbs 6:6&9, Proverbs 20:4, 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12, 1 Timothy 5:8)
It is the responsibility of both parents (particularly the father's) to train their children to be citizens of worth. Juvenile delinquency, a major cause for concern these days, would be a rare thing indeed if fathers followed JAH's instructions concerning the rearing of their children. Listed below are some guidelines as to why and how this should be done:
Train up your child to respect the Almighty JAH, the Creator of the universe!
It is impossible to over emphasise the importance of this single instruction. One might say that it is the cornerstone of good character.
Teach your children the commandments of JAH
. You could hardly expect them to live upright lives if they do not know right from wrong. The commandments of the Most High define sin, they state in plain and simple terms what sin is and what righteousness is,
and children must be taught to recognize the difference.
The Ten Commandments are recorded in the Scriptures in Exodus chapter 20 and explained in great depth in Matthew chapters 5, 6 and 7. Spend a few minutes each day reading these and other portions of Scripture to your family. Enormous benefits will be the result. Children must be taught the Ten Commandments !
Without being cruel or too severe, chasten (smack) a naughty child.
The Holy Scriptures come out strongly in favour of corporal punishment when it is deserved. If a child persists in doing what it has been told not to do, it should be physically punished.
The family or society which rejects Jah's instructions in this vital matter of punishing a wayward child will certainly suffer the consequences when those same children grow up! (Proverbs 3:12 and 13:24, Hebrews 12:7, Deuteronomy 8:5, Proverbs 19:18 & 22:15)
Do not provoke, harass or discourage your children, but treat them with the respect that is their due.
Set a good example, for after all is said and done "the glory of children is their abbah (father)."
Imitate the Most High
, for is He not the Husband of zion and the Abbah of us all
The Wife / Mother / Em
A million words would not suffice to tell the worth of a good wife. She is the heart of the family just as surely as the husband is the head. Pause and think about how important your heart is to your body, now, the same with your Head, without either we cannot live…remember this fact.
The Scriptures abound with praises for the woman who reaches JAH's standard, for, then does she becomes a blessing to the whole community and a lasting joy to her husband. (Proverbs 18:22, 19:14)
In Proverbs chapter 31 the manifold virtues of the perfect wife are listed and “every woman would do well to study that chapter.” At a first reading the standard called for may appear quite impossible to reach; but like all Holy requirements it can be met with Jah's assistance. The original Hebrew word translated "virtuous" in Proverbs 31:10 is “hayil”. It means strong in all moral qualities. Listed below are a few of the moral qualities wives should aim to be strong in:
She is virtuous and, therefore, priceless. (verses 10-11)
She is not lazy but industrious. (verses 13-15, 19&24)
She handles the family budget wisely. (verse 14&16)
She is kind and generous to the poor. (verse 20)
She is confident. (verse 21)
She is a source of honour to her husband. (verse 23)
She is not slovenly but well dressed. (verse 22)
She is respected in the community. (verse 23&25)
She is wise and well able to advise others in JAH's law. (verse 26)
She is careful of her family's needs. (verse 27)
She is respected by her husband and family. (verse 28)
She is not vain, but reverences the Most High. (verse 30)
It is that last point,…her recognition of vanity for what it is and her reverence of the Most High that is the secret of her worth. The wife who reveres Jah and seeks to live in accordance with His law will go on to become a crown of blessing to her husband and a priceless gem in Jah's sight. (Proverbs 12:4, 31:10)
In direct contrast to the above we find the unworthy women described in the Scriptures, in whom one or more of the following traits are found:
The contentious and angry spirit. (Proverbs 21:9&19, also 27:15)
Promiscuous, whorish behaviour, enticing lust (Proverbs 6: 24-32)
Dressing and posing as men. (Deuteronomy 22: 5)
The scheming, hateful spirit. (Ecclesiastes 7:26)
Taking over men's duties in the assembly (1 Corinthians 14:34-35, 1 Timothy 2:11-12)
According to JAH's Word, a wife should be submissive to her husband; for the husband is the head of the wife even as The Messijah is the head of the Body (Assembly). We will admit that this standard - and especially that word "submissive" - will rankle in the minds of many in this electronic age; but we are dealing here with the Word of the living JAH not with the fickle fashions of a confused and wayward generation. (Ephesians 5:22-24, Titus 2:5).
A wife's behaviour, the way she ought to dress, how she should speak to her husband and her whole attitude and outlook towards life are perfectly described in….1 Peter 3:1-6….
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 3:2
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3:3
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 3:4
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of Jah of great price. 3:5
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in Jah, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 3:6
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Women who seek to excel in everything that is truly worthwhile, should closely study those verses and practice the directions listed in that inspired instruction. The resulting benefits to the family and community at large will be incalculable.
Modern ideas about the liberation of women are perfectly acceptable to a degree, for women have been treated as second class citizens for too long. Indeed, according to JAH's Word they are man's equal and not to be treated as inferiors.
But when the so-called liberator's theories clash with the plain teachings of the Scriptures regarding the various roles men and women have been authorised to fulfil, you can be sure that in the end those theories when implemented will bring sorrow to the very women they are intended to help.
Much rather would we see women following the plain teachings of the Scriptures in this delicate matter of how to live, how to speak to their husbands and how to manage their households.
Holiness, purity of mind, gentleness, hospitality, kindness and all those other admirable qualities that the Scriptures tell of, are what the believing wife must aim for.
If you are a wife and mother you must begin to practice those things, for in the doing of them you will bring great blessing to your entire family - whether they believe in the Most High or not. (1 Corinthians 7:13-14)
Everyone knows from the youngest member to the oldest that the “Em”
(Hebrew for mother) is the HEART of the family! If you are a wife and mother, remember that you hold a sacred position; a position that is the symbol of JAH's ISRAEL
Yes, a wife and mother's position in the home represents the role of the SCATTERED ASSEMBLY in this world. To you has been granted the inestimable privilege of not only bringing new life into the world (giving birth to physical children), but also of moulding the character of future generations. You can be in your family circle what the Most High intended ISRAEL TO BE TO THE WORLD:
The heart (the emotional hub of the family and community)
The nourisher (the provider of the physical and spiritual meals)
The main channel of communication between all the members of the family - and the community.
Pause awhile and consider those three sacred responsibilities. If under JAH's guidance you decide to do the best you can, using whatever talents and time you possess to maximum advantage, He will make you a greater blessing to your family, your friends and your community than you can remotely imagine. As the Scriptures so aptly put it:
"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands."
When the world children is used, people normally think of young persons under the age of about 15 years; and of course that is true to a certain extent. In these reasonings, however, and you will have noticed that it is directed mostly at adults, the word 'children' includes all those who have parents but in particular those whose parents or grandparents are still alive.
In other words this section could apply to you, whatever your age, so long as you have even one parent alive. With that thought in mind let us examine what the Scriptures have to say about the responsibilities of children.
By far the most well known instruction to a child (of any age) is to "honour thy father and thy mother." This is one of the Ten Commandments and it was written by Jah Himself on tablets of stone to indicate its eternal nature.
To "honour" means to hold in high regard, to respect, to look up to, to think well of, to defer to and whenever their commands are in line with JAH's law - to obey. Do you do that? Or are you guilty of breaking the Holy commandment to "honour thy Abbah and thy Em?"
So highly does Jah regard this commandment that it is the first one with a built-in promise. (Exodus 20:12, Ephesians 6:1-3, Leviticus 19:3)
Children were intended by the Most High to be a great joy to their parents, and they certainly are when they do what Jah commands; they bring blessing not only to themselves and the family but to the whole community.
To accomplish this they may have to make some sacrifices, and many may wonder if it is worth the effort, but He who weighs every motive and action will certainly reward those who keep His law.
So set it as a goal to gladden the heart of your mother and abbah. Indeed, make it your aim to be as good a son (ben) or daughter (bath) to your earthly parents as you would like to be to your heavenly Abbah.
If you do this the Almighty JAH will bless you out of all proportion to your actions. (Proverbs 10:1, 15:5, 23:24, Psalm 127:3-4)
Do not look upon discipline as a form of punishment: it is because your parents love you that they reprove and discipline you. Indeed, our Heavenly Abbah disciplines all his children because He loves us.
Discipline is a means of training.
Children who dishonour their parents sow to themselves a bitter crop of sorrow and tears. (Proverbs 15:5, 20:20, 30:17) Study these Scriptures for they contain warnings of great importance.
Never mock your parents. Mockery is verbal violence. Jah is not pleased when He sees and hears children attempting to make fools of their elders, especially their parents. To physically strike a parent is also a grievous sin. (Proverbs 30:17, Exodus 21:15-17)
One of the last prophecies in the Holy Writings to be fulfilled before the Messijah returns to this earth concerns the "reconciling of the hearts of children to their fathers". It is one of the most beautiful predictions in the whole of Scripture and it is coming true at this moment in the lives of believers all over the globe.
Make every effort to be a part of that prophecy by being reconciled with your parents.
Communications in the Home
Life's dearest moments, in spite of the jokes to the contrary, are mostly found in the home and within the circle of ones own family. Just think of how great an influence the family has on each individual; for it is mostly within that circle that one's real character is forged, developed and eventually exhibited.
Educational institutions may test ones memory and intelligence, employers may evaluate ones ability and output, governmental authorities may assess ones wealth, but it is only in the environment of the home that the true worth or worthlessness of an individual comes to light.
JAH intended the home to be the seedbed of truth, the place where children and their parents were to learn, appreciate and practice the real values of life; values which can only be learned in the company of others. And what are those values? They are:
Love and affection
Sacrifice - that greatest of spiritual investments
A sense of responsibility towards others
How to live under and how to exercise authority
These and many other values are best learned in the family circle; and JAH the Almighty Creator has designed it so in order that we may know how to behave towards the whole Family of Mankind of which He is the Everlasting Abbah.
Here, then, in summary are two challenging facts:
Jah designed the human family to reflect His special relationship with His people.
And the family circle is the best environment for the development of character.
In view of this, let us endeavour to live in our home as though in the very presence of the Most High.
It is an exceedingly high standard we will admit, and one that many may think quite impossible to attain. But it can be done. Indeed, with Jah's assistance it can al be done in believing homes all around the world, and yours could be one of them. That is the challenging point of these reasonings; not only to bring happiness to you and your family, BUT TO PRESERVE YOUR LIFE IN THE Messijah AND HAVE IMMORTALITY…YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES.
Are you courageous enough to give it a try?
If you are, then begin right away by placing your faith in the Most High.
Your next move is to learn His will, as specified in the Scripture, and then put into practice the things you know to be right.
If you do these three things you will be on the pathway of Life.
A few closing thoughts about communications. The Holy Scriptures has some invaluable advice about communications; about how we should talk to one another. Remember that people cannot see your motives; nor are they able to read your thoughts. All they can initially assess you by are the words you speak and how you speak them.
It is no good blundering through life saying what you don't mean, and meaning what you don't say. You must learn how to communicate with others - especially your own family - if you want to be happy.
In short, you must learn how to speak, with the right tone, without insinuations, sarcasm and back-bitings, this is not an easy thing, Scripture says “No man has tamed the tongue”. Believe me your very happiness in coming years and possibly even your job depends upon it. Yes communications are that important. Here are a few Scripture hints about verbal communications:
Let your speech be always with grace - courteous, polite and with good taste. (Colossians 4:6)
Let your speech always be sound - true, wholesome and clean. (Titus 2:8)
Answer gently. (Proverbs 15:1)
Use your words to bring cheer. (Proverbs 12: 25)
Remember that what comes out of your mouth is a clear indication to Jah and your companions of what is in your heart. (Matthew 15:18-19)
Do not engage in obscene or foolish talk. (Matthew 12:36)
And always bear in mind the value and power of spoken words, for they are like apples of gold in pictures of silver. (Proverbs 25:11)
But we must rebuke in order to edify others in doctrines at times…and stand firm to defend the Truth of Jah.
One love and peace to all Israelite Saints…